How to Stop Worrying about what Others Think of You

you can be free of worry about what others think of you once you understand this one simple truth

you can be free of worry about what others think of you once you understand this one simple truth

Worrying about what others think of me, what I look like, what I wear, what I say, what I do...

I have not worried about these things for a long time.

Worrying about what others think is too draining, too stressful, too restrictive...too much against life, growth, development and healing.

Worrying about what others think can inhibit you from living freely and fully, from sharing your gifts, talents, opinions and preferences.

Most of all, worrying about what others think can prevent you from living a life of joy and peace.

There is one simple reason (among many) why this worry should not dominate your life -- and I'll share that in a moment.

But first, here are a couple of books that have offered me beneficial insights into living a healthy life (not so much physical health, but mental and emotional health):

Heal your Life by Louise Hay

Boundaries by Henry Cloud

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So much of my own life philosophy mirrors that of Louise Hay, sometimes I feel like I could have written passages of that book!

On the other hand, the principles I learned in Boundaries were so different from how I had been living my life for 40+ years as a people pleaser, so eye-opening, and so liberating. 

You see, measuring and judging my every action, comment, decision, opinion, desire and preference against what "others" might think is far too stressful.

More than just the stress is the sad fact that living my life in an attempt to get approval, validation and acceptance of others robbed me from living a life that was aligned with my own soul.

And that is a true loss.

So, here is the major realization that has helped me -- and can help you -- banish this worry once and for all:

No one really cares that much about what you look like ...they only care about what they look like!

No one really cares that much about what you are wearing ...they only care about what they are wearing!

No one really cares that much about whether you're witty, intelligent or successful...they only care if they are witty, intelligent or successful.

In other words, people are usually more concerned with their own lives, challenges, hopes and dreams than they are with yours.

and that's exactly how it should be!

Read Boundaries and Heal Your Life and you'll see why.

For now, I'd like to hear from you: what books have made a difference in your living a life of joy and peace?

So grateful to have these conversations with you.

with warm wishes,

Peggy